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Single Moms: You Don’t Have to Do It Alone

Adryenn Ashley

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Being a parent is a challenging role even when you have a two-parent household. Most women don’t plan on being a single mom, so dealing with the challenges of parenthood can come with the added struggle of being unprepared. It can be easy to feel overwhelmed, but remember that you don’t have to do this alone. Seeking out help does not mean that you have failed as a parent.

Financial Assistance

Your community likely has several non-profit agencies that can help you with finding a place to live and helping to pay your bills. Governmental agencies such as the Department of Human Services and the Department of Social Services are available to assist families that are in need. You will need to meet with a caseworker so that they can get the process started. They can determine how much and what kind of aid you will require.

There are also federally funded programs that can offer you financial assistance. Temporary Assistance for Needy Families (TANF) is a program that can provide monetary assistance and food stamps for a short period of time. Women Infants and Children (WIC) is a federal program that is designed to provide food to women that are pregnant or breastfeeding. It also covers children up to the age of five.

There are also grants available for single mothers that are trying to go back to school in order to support their families. The Live Your Dream Award and the Sunshine Lady Foundation are just two of the grants that are available.

Community Programs

Churches often have shelters for women who are homeless or who are struggling to make ends meet. Other religious programs may help a single mother to pay for rent, bills, provide clothing, and food. The Salvation Army and Catholic Charities are two such organizations that can provide assistance to families in need. They can also help you to find a job if you don’t already have one. Check with your local church to see if they have a program that can provide you with assistance.

Additionally, there are groups like A Guardian Angel who specifically target single women who are pregnant. They provide resources to help with pregnancy, planning for the future, or adoption. It’s important to use resources like this to connect with other people who have similar experiences.

Other Alternatives

Having a baby is a huge responsibility. That baby is going to change your life. You may not be ready for all of the added burdens that this will bring. If you don’t feel like you are ready to be a mother, consider finding an adoption agency. They can assist you in finding a good home for your baby.

If you would still like to be involved with your baby’s life, consider having an open adoption arrangement with the new parents. Adoption is a good way to give your baby all of the opportunities that you are not able to provide for them. Adoption can also allow you to pursue educational opportunities that may not have been available or would have been very difficult if you were to keep the baby.

There is no right way to be a single mom. You just need to make the best decisions that you can for the future of you and your baby. You don’t have to do it all by yourself.

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How to Help Your Child Find an Apartment

Anna Smith

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Leaving home can be intimidating for both your now grown-up child and for you. It’s a new process and it’s a scary world that they have never had to explore before. As a parent, you want your child to succeed, and helping them find a good first apartment is an important first step in adulthood.

Find an Affordable Place

One of the most important things to do is help your child find a place that they can afford. Help them know what their monthly budget is and help them find an apartment that’s within that budget. While you as a parent want to give your child everything, let them know that they as an adult will be responsible for paying their rent, and should find a place that’s within their budget. That being said, do some research on the properties that are within their budget and look for apartments that are within safer neighborhoods. Affordable does not mean dangerous.

Avoid Scams

Rental scammers like to particularly target first-time renters. Deals that are too good to be true usually are and deals for rental places that come from third party sources are not always trustworthy. One way to avoid a scam is to go through a reputable home rental company. Another way to avoid scams is to look for red flags. For example, some red flags are information that is misspelled or seems fake on the listing, landlords asking for money before you can see the property, and landlords that only deal with cash. To keep your child safe, be aware of red flags as you look together to find an apartment.

Consider Roommates

If your child is going off to college, they are bound to have roommates that they will be living with. If not, consider encouraging them to room together with another friend who is leaving home. Rent will be cheaper with multiple people living in the apartment. In addition, responsibilities for keeping the apartment clean can be shared among roommates and make the transition to living on your own easier. Not every young adult will want to have roommates, but if they are amiable, encourage them to live with roommates.

As your child leaves home, it is reassuring to know that you are sending them to a safe place. Consider the price, avoid scams, and think about roommate possibilities as you look for an apartment and exercise caution to stay safe.

Here’s another article you might like: Empty Nest Syndrome? Why You Should Consider Fostering a Child

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Tips for Making Apartment Living Work with Small Children

Apartment living can work just fine with small children. Although moving into a small space with small, energetic family members might seem impossible the truth is just the opposite. Living in an apartment with a young family can be just as happy and successful as living in a large house.

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Tips for Making Apartment Living Work with Small Children

Apartment living can work just fine with small children. Although moving into a small space with small, energetic family members might seem impossible the truth is just the opposite. Living in an apartment with a young family can be just as happy and successful as living in a large house.

Share Bedrooms

With small children, bedroom-sharing might seem a daunting undertaking, but having your children share a bedroom will lead to saving space in the apartment. Sharing a room leads to better friendship and problem-solving in children and will make apartment living easier.

Consider giving the children the bigger bedroom. Although it may be tough to give up the master bedroom, you can keep their toys and other belongings in there with them, resulting in easier and quicker clean-up and a more efficient use of space. In order to save space further, consider investing in bunk beds.

Get Outside Often

Apartments, especially when filled with young children, can get cramped. Make sure your kids get outside often so they can move around and are not stuck in a smaller place all the time. The world is your playground. Take opportunities to explore the city or town around you and seek out spaces like parks or other outdoor play areas of which you can take advantage. Not only will they get to stretch their legs, they’ll also get fresh air and essential Vitamin D.

Usually, there are several great amenities for family-based apartments that you should take advantage of. For example, some apartment complexes include a playground, swimming pool, and/or even an onsite daycare. Others include on-demand babysitting, events for children, and/or a playroom. Keep these possibilities in mind when choosing your apartment.

Conserve Space

When you only have so much space in an apartment, don’t let any of it go to waste. Don’t allow yourself to hold onto unnecessary stuff. Even though it may be difficult, don’t use up precious space storing old art projects (digitize them instead), extra sippy cups, or appliances larger than you need. Downsize your belongings if possible.

Invest in good storage. Shelves, boxes to keep under beds, and other organizational spaces which can be tucked out of the way will save you space and make more room for kids to play. Multipurpose, foldable furniture is another great way to maximize your space in a small apartment.

Despite the small space available in an apartment, your family can love your new home. Paying attention to making the most of your space, getting out of the apartment frequently, and implementing a bedroom-sharing strategy will make apartment living easy and fun for both you and your young children.

Looking for more advice to help your family? Read this next: How Can I Protect My Home and Family From Intruders?

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What Parents Can Do: How to Help Your Kid’s Self-Esteem

Adryenn Ashley

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As a parent, you want to do everything you can for your child. If they are suffering from low self-esteem, it can harm them in their future. A dismal view of themselves can be a self-fulfilling prophecy. They might also not realize that they’re struggling with self-esteem. It’s here that you need to pay attention to signs. Here are some things you can do to help with your kid’s self-esteem.

Give Them Specific Praise

If your child has low self-esteem, they might not be receptive to praise. It can sound especially hollow, as they are more likely to internalize criticism. You will want to make them feel better, but you shouldn’t offer empty compliments. Instead, you should tell them about specific things that you’ve noticed that they’re doing well. This can help boost their confidence significantly. One way is to talk about things that they’ve been improving in. When commenting on their improvements, avoid comparing them to other people. Instead, your comparisons should illustrate your child’s growth.

Help Them Feel Safe

Low self-esteem often goes with feeling uncomfortable in certain environments, such as school. To get your child to open up and to help them, you should help them find a place they feel comfortable. This could be a favorite restaurant or an outdoor location. Go with them and enjoy a day together. You can drive the conversation towards both of your feelings, which will help them feel better about sharing their feelings and thoughts.

Talk with Them

Your child might feel overwhelmed, ashamed, and alone when it comes to their self-esteem. You know how wonderful they are, but you need to figure out how to show them this. Talk to them on a regular basis. Tell them that they should feel free to share their feelings with you. You don’t want to pressure them. It can be scary to intimate these thoughts to a parent. Take it easy to trust them to share as much as they’re comfortable sharing.

Get Them Professional Help

Trained professionals can help your child deal with low self-esteem. Child therapists and counselors can give your child a secure location to share how they feel. With their nuanced understanding of younger brains, they can help your child reach a breakthrough and build up their self-esteem. For more extreme cases, your child may need a complete change of scenery to get them the help they need, especially if their self-esteem issues are caused by other problems. There are specific programs that are built to help teens deal with their issues while providing them the support they need. This isn’t the solution for everyone, but it may be something to look into.

As a parent, you want to help your child to become the best they can be. Helping them improve understand their worth is one of the best ways that you can prepare them for their adult life. It may be an uphill struggle, but this is a battle worth fighting.

References:

Helping Your Child Develop a Healthy Sense of Self-Esteem

Encouraging and Praising Children

Diamond Ranch Academy

Simple Ways to Boost Your Child’s Self-Esteem

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